Reconciling in Christ

Faith, Love, & Welcome: A Discussion about Sexuality and Gender Identity For Parents and Guardians –

April 9th – Madison campus
April 10th – Verona campus
6:20-7:20 p.m. / 8:00 p.m.

While your child is at confirmation for the evening, join with fellow parent of teens, Shannon Kunstman to talk about love, inclusion, and acceptance of our LGBTQ siblings and children as we explore thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and experiences.

6:20-7:20 p.m. will be gathering, story-sharing, question-asking, and silence. If you have more private questions or concerns, you can stick around to ask/chat more with Shannon from 7:30-8 p.m.

If that night doesn’t work for you or you’d like a more private conversation, you can sign up for a one-on-one conversation with one of the RIC members (a variety of dates and times) or Becca on Thursday, April 18th (time and location decided by you). Sign up for a one-on-one here.

Click here to sign-up

If this is uncharted territory for you, know that you are welcome to join in the conversation and you don’t have to feel “late to the party.”

Sign-up for One-on-One discussions

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The one-on-one discussions are available for those who desire a more private setting for conversation. Consider signing up to meet with a member of the RIC Task Force. We are happy to answer questions about the Reconciling in Christ process, where Good Shepherd is in the process and why it’s important. We will listen, answer questions and pray together.

You are welcome to sign up as an individual or with a partner/spouse/friend. Click here to sign-up

Queer Eye Screening & Discussion:

“God Bless Gay”

Join us to watch Mama Tammye, a devoutly religious woman with a gay son and a giving heart. We will witness the journey of Mama Tammye and her community as they explore what it means to love as Jesus taught us to love. This touching Christian story encompasses relationships, hospitality, race, gender, acceptance, exclusion and healing.

Two opportunities to participate are available:

Sunday March 31, 11:45 a.m. – 1:15 p.m., Verona Campus Worship Center & Lobby

or Sunday April 7, 11:15 a.m. – 12:45 p.m., Madison Campus Sanctuary

Snacks and childcare will be provided

Contact Pastor Dara Schuller-Hanson with questions: or 608-271-6633

Adult Study: Dialogues On: Sexuality

This class has ended. If your small group is interested in study materials please contact Pastor Dara Schuller-Hanson,

You are invited to participate in “Dialogues On: Sexuality”, a 4-session study led by Pastor Dara Schuller-Hanson and sponsored by the Reconciling in Christ Task Force. Topics will include: “What are people of God called to do”? “What does it mean to be a Welcoming Church”? “Language, Identity and the Power of Words”. We will engage in conversation about race, gender and sexuality and learn how to respectfully converse with our peers. Through discussion we will grow in community and relationship with each other.

Our individual and collective discussion will determine what kind of welcome we create here at Good Shepherd. 

Conversation and Coffee

More conversation to come in May!

The Reconciling in Christ (RIC) Task Force invites you to an informal discussion before worship. RIC Task Force members and a Pastor will be present to listen, answer your questions, discuss shared values and review the Reconciling Works process. We welcome all to this conversation regardless of where you are in the process. Let’s talk!

January 2019 update from the RIC Task Force

…Good Shepherd is currently in step 6 of an 11 step process. This step is focused on providing educational opportunities for congregation discussion…

Click here to read the complete update

Reconciling in Christ

Good Shepherd’s Reconciling in Christ (RIC) Task Force is exploring to what degree our congregation extends a welcome and a message of belonging to people of all races, socio-economic circumstances, sexual orientations, gender identities and expressions, political affiliations, and levels of belief or doubt.

Unfortunately, these groups continue to experience exclusion and harm. Even churches that declare “All are welcome” often demonstrate to these societally marginalized groups that the welcome does not include them. For this reason, the invitation must specifically mention such groups. Many of our new and longstanding members speak of the welcome they felt when first walking through our doors and how that impacted their decision to make Good Shepherd their church home. This task force is the next step in our congregation’s commitment to hospitality for all people.

The RIC Task Force has been recognized by the Good Shepherd Board and has collaborated with Good Shepherd’s Leadership Team, conducting over 50 conversations with church members and leaders about deepening and expanding our public welcome. Feedback has been positive; expressing a desire to walk this journey together as we learn more about who we are. Engaging in a welcoming process will deepen the faith life of Good Shepherd.

Reconciling Works

The process Good Shepherd’s RIC Task Force is following for gracefully engaging ELCA congregations comes from Reconciling Works, a Lutheran organization that has been doing this work since 1974.

Connect with the RIC Task Force

Name Church/Time
1. Syrenne McNulty  – Madison 10:00
2. Bjorn Hanson – Madison
3. Katie Wagner – Verona
4. Sarah Key – Verona Deep
5. Ellen Franzone –  Madison 8:30
6. Diane Kohrs  – Verona Deep
7.  Guy Schroeder – Verona 10:30
8. Shannon Kunstman –  Verona Deep
9. Tom Golden  – All

Sample Affirmation Statements

Within the next 6-12 months, the Reconciling Works process will help us to discern if we should adopt a welcome statement something like the following:
“ We welcome all who are seeking God’s love and grace. We welcome all because God welcomes all, regardless of race or culture, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, or relationship status. We welcome all without regard to addictions, physical or mental health, imprisonment, socio-economic circumstances, or anything that too often divides us. Our unity is in Christ.”

To inspire us and provide examples as templates or guides, Reconciling Works has made available the following real affirmations from congregations around North America. These statements can be utilized as we work together to write an affirmation that proclaims Good Shepherd’s commitment to our community’s welcome.

Read Sample Affirmation Statements Here

The realities of the gay lifestyle

Published by Christians Talk

Guide to Terminology

The words we use to talk about lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people and issues can have a powerful impact on our conversations. The right words can help open people’s hearts and minds, while others can create distance or confusion. Designed for those who want to support LGBT Americans but often face an array of confusing terminology and language, this short guide offers an overview of essential vocabulary, terms to avoid, and a few key messages for talking about various issues.

Click to read “An Ally’s Guide to Terminology”

Additional resources as we journey together:

Local transgender kids strive to live as the people they were meant to be

From a Madison Magazine post, January 24, 2019
—by Maggie Ginsberg

More and more children are openly identifying as a gender that’s different or more complex than the sex they were born into. About 9,000 Wisconsin middle school- to high school-aged kids self-identify as transgender, nonbinary and gender expansive/nonconforming, or TNG. Some families of TNG kids — ages 4 to 15 across Dane, Jefferson and Rock counties — talk about who they are, what they need and why it matters.

God shows up as one of the marginalized

From the December 3, 2018 article of Bold Cafe
—by Emily Heitzman

This first Christmas was not a magical holiday homecoming story full of family turkey dinners, carol singing and football games. It did not involve decorating trees, baking cookies and opening wrapped gifts.

Rather, the first Christmas is a refugee story.

Transforming: The Bible & the Lives of Transgender Christians

A copy of this book is now available in the Good Shepherd Libraries at the Madison & Verona campus

In 2014, Time magazine announced that America had reached “the transgender tipping point,” suggesting that transgender issues would become the next civil rights frontier. Years later, many people—even many LGBTQ allies—still lack understanding of gender identity and the transgender experience. Into this void, Austen Hartke offers a biblically based, educational, and affirming resource to shed light and wisdom on this modern gender landscape.

Transforming: The Bible and the Lives of Transgender Christians provides access into an underrepresented and misunderstood community and will change the way readers think about transgender people, faith, and the future of Christianity. By introducing transgender issues and language and providing stories of both biblical characters and real-life narratives from transgender Christians living today, Hartke helps readers visualize a more inclusive Christianity, equipping them with the confidence and tools to change both the church and the world.

Clunky Questions

Often people with good intentions feel they aren’t able to ask questions about what it means to be LGBTQ because they are afraid of offending someone or they don’t have the right words with which to ask. Clunky Questions is for you! Watch a series of short videos to have your questions answered.

Watch Clunky Questions Videos

Changed Hearts

An excerpt from the October 2018 issue of Gather
—by Judith Roberts

The day we purchased our house, we loaded boxes, furniture, toys and clothes onto my uncle’s truck. I was so excited.

Our caravan of cars and trucks drove five miles north of the city of Hartford to our new home. Once we arrived, I played outside and watched the white families in the neighborhood pass by. No one spoke. No one stopped to lend a hand. No one waved. Though I was only 5, I knew we were unwelcome.

How science is helping us understand gender

A copy of this magazine is now available in the Good Shepherd Libraries at the Madison & Verona campus

An excerpt from National Geographic’s Gender Revolution Issue, January 2017

Article by Robin Marantz Henig

Freed from the binary of boy and girl, gender identity is a shifting landscape. Can science help us navigate?

Click to read this National Geographic Article 

Christian Parents Rethink LGBT Inclusion

Published by Christians Talk

Book: A Bigger Table: Building Messy, Authentic and Hopeful Spiritual Community

By John Pavlovitz

A copy of this book is now available in the Good Shepherd Libraries at the Madison & Verona campus

No one likes to eat alone; to approach a table filled with people, only to be told that despite the open chairs there isn’t room for you. The rejection stings. It leaves a mark. Yet this is exactly what the church has been saying to far too many people for far too long: “You’re not welcome here. Find someplace else to sit.” How can we extend unconditional welcome and acceptance in a world increasingly marked by bigotry, fear, and exclusion?

More about the book here

Change Keeps on Changing

An excerpt from the May 1, 2018 issue of Cafe
by Angela T. Khabeb

God’s promises are not contingent upon gender. A mother walks with her child through changes.

I’m surrounded by change. I look outside my window and notice the familiar sight of leaves changing colors. Daylight is fleeting as night arrives earlier and stays longer. It’s almost as if autumn is Mother Nature’s ambassador for change. Not only is change swirling around me, but it is also stirring from within me.

Click to read more

UnClobber: Aligning the Head and the Heart

Published by Colby Martin